Guess who’s coming to dinner

In the 1967 movie “Guess Who's Coming to Dinner”  (Spencer Tracy, Sidney Poitier , Katharine Hepburn, Katharine Houghton) the daughter of a liberal family brings home her fiancé from a whirlwind romance. Then the parents discover he is black. The parents had instilled in their daughter the idea that all the races were no better than the others. The daughter is perplexed by the reactions of her parents because they were unsettled by her engagement with the black man. The parents of the young man also arrive as guests at the dinner and their reaction adds to the flavour of the drama.

Now back to today. In the USA a lesbian couple are suing a sperm bank. After choosing a white sperm donor they discovered at five months pregnant that the donor was black. They decided to sue the sperm bank to prevent the same mistake happening again. Really. A huge penalty would reduce the ability to pay staff and upgrade procedures. It would be better to require the sperm bank to show improvement in their processes.

One can picture the couple scanning the catalogue of prospective sperm donors to get their special designer baby. But it was “Guess Who's Coming to Dinner”.

The lesbian couple are concerned also, as is in the USA, about mixed-race or black babies being raised by white parents in white neighbourhoods. Apparently they suffer racism at school or in the streets and then have to go home to a white family. Those white people who adopt black children apparently ensure that the children have black peers and elders to contribute to their upbringing.

I live in Africa, the heartland that spawned ‘Apartheid’. The country that was despised, persecuted and isolated by the world. Here ‘Apartheid’ was politically correct. Yet I find the situation in the previous paragraph racist to the pit. If white parents are finding black peers for their black adopted children to associate with then that means that skin colour is the paradigm (a distinct concept or thought pattern). In Africa we associate by social structure and social interests, by communities, by conversation aptitude, by customs and economic station. While the Professor would be respectful of the janitor they would not have much in common to talk about, unless for example, they belong to the same political cell. Their children may be school friends. White parents bring their adopted black children up 100% where they are, whether it be the street or suburb, school, club or social activity. Adopted yes, but their own. I cannot picture children adopted out of a slum crime ridden area having peers and elders drawn from those areas because that was their ‘culture’. No – a Zulu, Xhosa, Venda, etc adopted child is not ‘black’ or ‘African African’. He/she is African as African as I am.

The Tar-Baby is a fictional character in one of the Uncle Remus stories published in 1881. Br’er Fox made a doll of tar to entrap Br'er Rabbit. Br'er Rabbit was offended by what he perceived as the Tar-Baby's lack of manners, and punched it, and in doing so became stuck. The more Br'er Rabbit punched and kicked the worse he got stuck. His arch enemy, Br'er Fox could now dispose of him. The helpless Br'er Rabbit pleaded, "don't fling me in that brier-patch," prompting Fox to do exactly that. As rabbits are at home in thickets, the ingenious Br'er Rabbit escaped

.In modern usage, "tar baby" refers to any "sticky situation" that is only aggravated by additional contact.

As liberal minded as you think you are, the only solution to your brand of racism is to be tossed into the thicket together with your sticky situation.

Fokof

Sniffer Boom Dogs

I heard on the radio on my way back from work that dogs were now being trained to trace lost or left behind items in air planes. If a passenger dropped their cell phone or personal item in the plane, the sniffer dog would identify the item as ‘lost’ , and then find the owner of the item while he/she is still in customs.

Amazing.

Except if you don’t like dogs. How about if dogs are an affront to you religion. Like with Muslims. Satan dwells in ears of dogs, and along with pigs are offensive.

Miniature horses are used for ‘guide dogs’ for blind Muslims for this reason. Very cute. 

Horses, whatever size, make a large mess when they urinate and stool. And they cannot be house trained like dogs. So these horses are fitted with bags under their tails to catch the droppings and urine. But Muslim women, weather blind or not blind, have to be chaperoned by a male relative when they go out of the house. Which makes the horse unnecessary, I would say.

But what an insult if a sniffer dog identifies a lost parcel on a plane and returns it to it’s Muslim owner in the airport terminal – and it goes BOOM!

Fokjo!

Homo's and HIV/AIDS

Men who have sex with men comprise about 2% of the U.S. population. 

But they are the risk group most affected by HIV/AIDS according to the Centre for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC)

CDC reports that most gay and bisexual men acquire HIV through anal sex. This the riskiest type of sex for transmitting HIV.

In 2010, says the CDC, among persons newly infected with HIV, 63% were from male-on-male sex, while 52% of the homosexual population is already HIV positive.

On National Gay Men’s HIV/AIDS Awareness Day, the CDC stressed the continuing and disproportionate impact of HIV and AIDS on gay/homosexual men.

Is this disproportionate? Is the outcome is unfair? Should the gay/homosexual community proceed with a class action in the courts against the straight community? Should the straight community be forced to increase their unsafe sexual practices so that the percentages become more ‘proportionate.’

So why are the percentages so high in the gay/homosexual community? Lust. Men are naturally more predatory in their sex-drive, and what a bonus to meet up with another person who is equally lustful –another male. This results in having more partners compared to straight men, and 52% of those male partners are HIV/AIDS positive.

The problem with the predatory sexual behaviour of men, particularly gay/homosexual men, is that straight men are also hunted down. While encounters like this may be once off, straight men and their families become victims of the HIV/AIDS scourge.

In our drive in being politically correct, all sorts of euphemisms have been invented. Examples are, correctional facility(jail), put to sleep (euthanasia), uterus evacuation (abortion), adult entertainment (porn), sex-worker (prostitute, whore), partially proficient (unqualified), Gay (bugger, sodomite). Homo- bi- hetero- sexual is scientific terminology.

Well that is what it is. Bugger, Sodomite. Even if you say gay. That is what you mean.

Fokjo!

If it feels good

A few weekends back four girls, ages 13 to 15 years, reported to the hospital claiming to have been raped.

They had slipped out at night to party at a male friend’s home, where there were other invited males. Drinking ensued, and the party being in the townships it is likely that dagga/cannabis was used, and if the claim of rape is true, perhaps some harder drugs also. The girls did not go home that night so it is possible also that sex was consensual (or stupor assisted consent) and the rape claim was their defense for not going home.  

Well that is the background to the tragedy of the hazards of having a good time. 

If it feels good – do it, is the street philosophy today.

The girls were counselled in the rape clinic, swabs were taken for DNA and blood for HIV testing. The HIV rapid test is done as first step to determine if the ‘patient’ needs to use the so called ‘Rape Kit” (Rape Kit is a combination of anti-retrovirals that will protect the victim if the rapist is HIV positive). Further blood is sent away for confirmation.

Of the four girls aged 13-15 years:

• One was ‘clean’
• One was HIV positive, but because the test levels were so low, she would have been infected some two weeks prior, and not related to that previous night.
• One has full blown HIV progressing to AIDS.
• One was so grossly infected with vaginal warts that it is difficult to understand how anybody would have sex with her.

The prevalence of HIV in South Africa is 11%, while in the population group that the girls belong to, 14%. This is a huge burden on the tax-payer – me.

So what do we make of those old fuddy duddy moralists who said to abstain while single and be monogamous with a partner. You laughed ‘HA HA HA bla bla bible, hypocrites and bigots!”

You had the last laugh, and it was loud.

Fokjo!